Then I have to stay home from work or adventures if I have a package coming ? If I'm not home and I know a package is coming and it gets stolen thats my fault, but If I am home and it gets stolen right out from under me then its still my fault but I'm going to be pissed at the ups guy for not even attempting to let me know its here.
I don't get the complaint here.
You either want it treated as a "signature required" delivery or you don't. If it isn't required, then you're not going to get a knock or a doorbell ring. If I'm the driver and you didn't want a signature required delivery, I assume that you're not home and never planned to be.
If you want it delivered securely, either stay home and wait or get it shipped to your local UPS store and go pick it up.