You really should try them on, but I understand in some situations it might not be possible. If you're willing to shop online and can find a retailer with a no-hassle return policy, I would recommend Salomons. I have similar, wide feet and just upgraded from Burton Motos to Salomon Faction BOAs. Burton, Salomon, and ThirtyTwo I've heard are cut on the wide side, so if you're a tough fit even after trying ThirtyTwo, then maybe Salomon's Wide models are the way to go. My Factions aren't a "wide" model, and are very comfortable. While I wear 11D sneakers, my boots are 10.5. Maybe try the Salomon Synapse Wide... LINK Good reviews on most sites, and good reviews on this forum as well.
D is hardly wide - I rock E to EEE and also have long toes.
Burton Ruler's toebox fits me very well. Not saying that you should get the Ruler - but most other boots that I try (various Salomon, K2, DC, etc.) don't feel as comfortable out of the box. Maybe they would pack out nicely, but who knows
i have similar boot feet as u. I agree 32 is short and have narrow toebox. I tried Lashed and it just crushed my toes.
Nike fit suprisingly well. It was really tight but toes started to stretch out the liner fairly quick. And they had naroow ankles. Ride duce and 32 jp walker felt goo also. Burton was ok, but little loose around ankle.
You may want to go with traditiona lace or muti zone quick laces since you have small ankles but big toe box/calves. It will give you better fit since you can tie some sections tighter than other part of the boots. So you can tie it tight around ankle and little looser around calves.