I've never hit whistler, so take what I say with a grain of salt, but I've heard their powder is like boarding through mashed potatoes, while the rockies powder is much drier, lighter, powdery lol
This year I've hit Fernie, Sunshine, Lake Louise, Kimberley, and Nakiska in the Alberta/BC border area, and rarely have I found ice. A few days we've had hardpack this year but there are always runs with some good snow. Also the fact that there are 9-10 really good resorts within a 5 hour drive of Calgary (population 1.2 mil or so) means that the lift lines aren't bad. Mid-week you can ski right on most chairs, and even weekends I move around on the hills and hit lifts that I never have to wait for.
Sorry your trip sucked, I'd hate to plan something for so long, and be so stoked, only to have it not turn out. BTW I've had two Jay Peak, VT trips in the past year and it was great each time. Also quite cheap. Maybe time to do a trip there to make you forget about the honeymoon?