I missed this earlier, wrapped up in my own vent. Clearly you are not his friend if (1) the idea he could be gay is disturbing to you and (2) if he is gay, what the fuck makes you so spectacular that he'd want you? Is it possible you want him? Maybe you are having issues with your own sexuality, hence your homophobia, it's okay, no one will think any less of you. How could we, you've made an ass of yourself all on your own. So what, they gave him a massage, so what if he's gay? Does that mean you can't count on him, I think not, rather, that means that you are not worthy of anyone's friendship, and how fucking DARE you use slurs such as those to describe anyone, let alone someone you purport to be your best friend. How dare you bring such ignorance here!!!! Those words are unacceptable and continue to perpetuate hatred, of what 'value' is that? Who the fuck are you to confront him? And about what? Being free and comfortable in his own skin? And if he is gay, he obviously knows what an ignorant wanker you are so he wouldn't be comfortable sharing that with you. Someone needs to confront YOUR ass for your ignorance, your petulance and your outright douchebaggery.
PS: My mental picture of you on the forum: A tubby wanker who plays snowboard video games all day, wacks off sporadically throughout the day and stashes porn, twinkies and soiled sheets under your bed so mommy won't find them while dreaming of having a taste of your "best friend".
“Prejudices, it is well known, are most difficult to eradicate from the heart whose soil has never been loosened or fertilized by education; they grow there, firm as weeds among stones.” - Charlotte Bronte
I'm surprised i didn't see a response to my post earlier, because I try to check the forum daily.
Listen up, I don't hate my best friend because of anything about him. It's extremely ignorant and immature to hate someone for something they can't help, i.e. race, sexuality, etc. It's lame that you attack me on here when this thread is about "Venting". You can't expect someone to think or speak properly when they are influenced by anger. Maybe I need to TOTALLY re-word my post and explain the ENTIRE story behind why I'm frustrated.
My best friend, has been loyal to his morals for as long as I can remember. Just recently, he started to break everything that he once lived for which is WHY I'm frustrated. He has an awesome family, a very loving mother and step-father, who does everything for him, yet he is trying to spite them because they won't fund certain aspects of his life and encourage him in a positive direction. I guess I'm frustrated that he is doing this all because I have divorced parents and an abusive past with my father, and am jealous of his life i guess.
Just a few months ago, when he was most frustrated, he picked up a few old connections which led him to meet these two "homo-sexual" partners that live in an apartment in the tougher parts of town. At the time, he and i hadn't hung out in a while because he insulted my work position for no reason around some friends, which isn't like him at all. He believed I was ignoring him (just busy with work and school) so he tried to move on. I re-assured him that I wouldn't let personal insults get between the bond we had and it's immature to let a friendship go over that.
After a week of the little conflict I gave him a call, and he told me he had some "stories", that he wanted to share so he came over. Basically he told me that he had started doing drugs, and wanted to tell me about what it was like. I learned from his long obscure stories that he had met this "couple" in these apartments who were drug-dealers and also part-time criminals. He had done ex and acid (first in his life), which i believe was from peer pressure, and also broke into someone's car with these two to get some extra money. So basically within a week, my best friend went from an honest, hard working, 4.0 gpa student, to an attempted "bad-ass" criminal. He also told me about little things like that "massage" which I later found out was more than a massage.
I felt like he was doing this as an outcry for attention and I suggested to him that I don't think it is in his best interests to lose everything he worked for for these two guys. Let's cut the bullshit seriously, you make all LGQBT out to be innocently "abused" by society individuals, which they all aren't. I understand that the LGQBT society has gone through oppression in many ways and I don't doubt that many suffer daily. Even though you can't tell from my previous reckless and misconstrued post, I do feel for that community because I hate any kind of prejudice. At the time, I threw a word out to ONLY denounce those BUMS he was hanging out with, because they deserve a derogatory title regardless. You can't tell me that some scum in society (NOT SCUM BASED ON SEXUALITY BUT ON THEIR ACTS) deserves to be treated kindly.
Sorry this is all out of order, but you get the picture. A weekend later, he came over to my place and we hung out for the night. Late at night, he was somewhat "playing" with himself around me which I thought was very strange when it comes to two "straight" guys hanging out, in my opinion. After a few drinks, he said that the massage got a little personal, which I stressed I didn't care to know about, WHICH lead to my conclusion of his sexuality. He then was saying "I love you Austen" every time I did something funny and occasionally touched my arm. I told him that this all was bothering me and he said he was just "joking" with me.
A few days later, I wrote the post with all the frustration of thinking about how my friend had changed. I guess I know now that a "vent" is going to be judged by others, and I will refrain from expressing my events because I know I will be judged and attacked.
Just yesterday, I sat him down and expressed my concerns and told him I had something deep to ask him. I felt if I didn't know or establish grounds with him that it COULD get between our friendship. I didn't care if he was gay/bi, but I didn't want him to think in any way shape or form that I was. He said to me that he swears he is "straight" and also I addressed his "change" and he felt bad because he knows it is wrong. I didn't want something like a life-style ("thug life"-criminal acts-drug abuse-sexuality that just recently changed) choice to be affected be some punks.
Sorry again if my post offended you in any way, I honestly respect your work that you do. I know how hard it was and in need of someone to talk to when I faced abuse from my own family, and I had thoughts when I was younger.