Originally Posted by West Baden Iron
I think that the competitive thing starts so early with guys it is engrained in everything we do. Everything is competitive whether it is who starts walking first to who gets better grades, better on the ball field, etc. In my house, everything was competition growing up. We raced at everything. To the bus, to the mailbox, eating, finishing homework, sports, etc.
I had to compete with all the older kids in my area if I wanted play on the same sports fields, or skateboard, or just play fucking Dungeons and Dragons.
I have gotten better with age though. I don't compete with my wife over most things. I would be overly joyed if she made more money than me. She did at one point, and I was fine with that.
I'm different from most dudes, but I'd LOVE my wife to be a millionaire. Billionaire would be even better! Heli boarding 24/7. I have no ego about it, and like anything that will allow me to maximize my time doing the things I like to do: surf, snowboard, read, cook, etc...
I struggle with my kids on how much to push them. I was pushed so hard that I don't think it was a good thing. I have the hardest time "letting" them win anything. It goes against everything I know even though it is absolutely stupid. It takes all I have to let my 6 year old beat me at checkers. I'm getting better though. I want them to be competitive but not at all cost like I was/am.
My dad never pushed me, but he competed relentlessly with me and always bragged about how he could beat me at this or that (still does at 72). Turns out he was simply competing for my mothers attention. He treated himself like the oldest brother. It disgusted my Mom for her whole life.
I have learned to accept how good I am at certain tasks though. I am more competitive with myself than others at this point. I don't compare myself to others say in snowboarding and running. I just try to best what I have done in the past and try to be happy with that.
Super hard for me, but also why I focused more on surfing, snowboarding, golf, etc the older I got, rather than the team sports of my youth. It's still been hard not to compare myself to everyone else in the water or on the mountain, but at some stage, you just have to let it go. When I see some 16 year old pull a triple cork (or whatever), I just shake my head and think, "live it up now kid, those joints and muscles and unadulterated balls won't last forever". Still being competitive there in a way!
For a lot of guys, especially in the business/wall street world, competitiveness and money are ultimately a metaphorical big dick contest.
btw BADEN, your avatar is bad ass. I really like that shot.