They should tell if they are gay. Technically they should be treated as a different group of people like women are. I do not know much about military, but I am guessing a woman goes through different procedures...ect than a man. Well a gay should too. Gays are men who think they are attracted to the same sex. This drives them to act feminine...ect not fufilling thier duty as a male soldier. My opinion- Gays should not be in the military to begin with, be citizens of this great country, or exist. It is a state of mind, an attention whore state of mind.