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On the weekend I took my Level 1 Freestyle Certification (and I passed!) and my evaluators girlfriend was in for a huge surprise at the end of the course. She was originally supposed to be part of the course, but she called it quits after doing 1 run because she hurt her knee. He was going to purpose to her while on the course. He was going to have her teach 'coasting' which means just going off a jump straight air. And while she was teaching that for the evaluation, he was going to spray paint 'Jen will you marry me' on the landing of a jump so that while she was in mid air, she would read this. But, that didn't work out cuz she dropped out of the course.

So instead of doing that, the 5 people in my freestyle course, and the 7 people that were taking their level 2 combined together, and we all side slipped down a hill with our boards side to side so that the snow was flat (we pretty much groomed the hill). And while we were side slipping, he was behind us with spray paint writing 'Jen will you marry me'.

I cannot think of a purposal that can top that! Probably the cutest thing I have ever witnessed/ been part of.

alasdairm

i guess there's a school of thought which says that you don't ask that question unless you know the answer will be yes but, to me, asking somebody to marry in the gaze of others, or in a public forum, or at a ball game on a jumbotron just depersonalises and devalues the whole thing completely.

obviously, your mileage may vary but when i ask somebody to marry me, she'll be the only one who hears it. one person's 'cutest thing' is another's 'tacky crap'

alasdair

Leo

Here's the thing, you have to consider your future fiancee's feelings towards the whole matter. Proposing should be all about her and not you. She might want a "cute" proposal like in the story above. What will you do then? Are you going to stick with your guns and just please yourself?

You have to realize, weddings for females is a huge deal. They dream about it from a very early age (obviously there are exceptions though).

I recently got engaged and then married. I used to think like you. I didn't want to do it in public or do it in a "tacky" manner. When it came down to it, all I wanted to do is please her. So I proposed to her in the middle of church after Christmas mass. That was a huge deal because I am not the most religious person in this world and she knows that. She also knows I don't like doing these types of things in public. I did it for her even though I preferred to do it privately. It was perfect for her which made it perfect for me.

As cheesy as it might be, some girls actually like the "tacky" public proposals. Of course, there are others who think just like you and consider it tacky. It all boils down to what the girl prefers. And if you don't know which type she is, then you shouldn't be proposing. You also shouldn't propose if you can't bite your pride to make the girl happy.

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Cavman

As long as she says YES! hehe

tooscoops

hopefully it wasn't just normal spraypaint.. that stuff is bad for the environment! heh... not like i actually care.

i'm not big on the proposals that are a public show, but it definitely sounds cute. as long as he spelled everything right. that would make for an awkward situation...

i proposed on the hill as well. at the peak of whistler... had been riding all week with a ring box in my pocket hoping not to fall on it or lose it just waiting for the right time... worked for me.

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G2309

Not sure puting a poposal on the the kicker landing is a good idea. I can imagine the distraction leading to an injury,

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alasdairm

leo, you make some good points and my response was obvious (and unavoidably) influenced by my own feelings on the subject.

that said, as a generalisation, i'm not sure i agree with the idea that any issue in a marriage - even the proposal itself - should be 100% about one partner's feelings and 0% about the other. that kind of thing doesn't sound too healthy to me.

but, as ever, ymmv (and we're drifting).

regards

alasdair

Leo

Yea, it's not healthy if that's true in all aspects of the relationship. I just choose to give that special day to my wifey. After all, I only care to wed her. Her on the other hand, not only wants to wed me, but also wants that wedding she's been dreaming about since she was playing with barbie dolls

Besides, you want to make the proposal 100% about her since that would increase your chances of getting married to her

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ComeBack_Kid

Wow, can one person spell "proposal" correctly in this thread? But besides that, cool story bro

Leo

Everyone did spell it correctly except the OP

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