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Old 02-17-2008, 09:59 AM   #1 (permalink)
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So i go boarding with three other guys (im the only girl) and i am getting really frustrated with one of my friends. Out of the four of us, everyone has a different skill level. One of us has been boarding for a long time, can bomb the steeps, hit the big jumps, do c-boxes etc. Next down in abiltity is my other friend, who started about three years ago and gets to board a lot more than me. He goes a bit faster and can hit bigger jumps, harder boxes etc. Then theres me, who started snowboarding last year, but could link turns after about two hours. I can now dominate the blues and handle blacks decently, and am starting to venture into the park. I also play hockey so i have to be very cautious about hurting myself, and i also dont get to go boarding very often. Then comes the stubborn one, who we taught to ride this year. He can get down the blues but tends to catch edges and fall very frequently.
The annoying part is when the four of us hit the park, he tries most of the stuff (not the huge jumps but the rails and boxes) that my two better friends try. While some of the time he can manage to land like the flat boxes and low rails and such, he tends to take a bunch of nasty spills. The last time i went he ended up bleeding from falling on a fairly tall, very skiny box. Now this may seem like his problem, but it is annoying the crap out of me. Mainly because i am not dumb enough to try a lot of this stuff, so my other friends tend to pressure me to do the boxes/rails that he ruins himself on. I have no doubt i could handle a lot of the stuff, but i am worried about getting hurt for hockey, and i also take a lot of time to build up the courage to do boxes/ rails etc. What should i do about this? I told my friend he could get seriuosly hurt, but he didnt seem to care.

sorry abt the long post, but this has really been bugging me...
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Old 02-17-2008, 01:35 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Tell them that you don't want to screw yourself up. If they can't handle that then fuckem
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Old 02-17-2008, 02:22 PM   #3 (permalink)
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i do not want for you to think i am being dismissive of your problem Ms. B.Chick.... people piss me off too. however, if you snowboard to please yourself and not other people, then as alaric says, 'fuck em'.

seriously, you do what you like and they do what they like, inclusive of bleeding all over the shop, if that's what pumps their nads! its all good. no stress, just keep the smile factor going. your pals should be pissed off at you not hitting things as much as you should be annoyed by inexperienced types throwing their bones about. ie. not at all.

quit worrying, just ride.
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Old 02-17-2008, 02:42 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I agree with the two previous posts. The last thing your friend should be hearing as he gets hauled down on the patroler's toboggan is your laughter.
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Old 02-17-2008, 04:23 PM   #5 (permalink)
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haha thanks for the replies... ur right i should just stop worrying about it
i didnt mean to whine or anything i was just frustrated
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Old 02-17-2008, 05:06 PM   #6 (permalink)
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honestly the hockey bit sounds like an excuse, unless you play professionally or for a college with a scholarship. but thats just me. this theory is backed by the fact that you take a lot of time to build up the courage and that you need people to confirm your opinion

I would try to think that maybe they expect you to learn at a higher level and they are just trying to push you a bit. that doesnt sound wrong to me at all... If the park isnt your thing then dont go! theres plenty of other terrain to hit. some people just have different preferences. thats a perfectly good reason for you not to go to the park and feel like you will always get hurt.

In the end, do whats fun to you. thats what youre there for...
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Old 02-17-2008, 05:18 PM   #7 (permalink)
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So i go boarding with three other guys (im the only girl) and i am getting really frustrated with one of my friends. Out of the four of us, everyone has a different skill level. One of us has been boarding for a long time, can bomb the steeps, hit the big jumps, do c-boxes etc. Next down in abiltity is my other friend, who started about three years ago and gets to board a lot more than me. He goes a bit faster and can hit bigger jumps, harder boxes etc. Then theres me, who started snowboarding last year, but could link turns after about two hours. I can now dominate the blues and handle blacks decently, and am starting to venture into the park. I also play hockey so i have to be very cautious about hurting myself, and i also dont get to go boarding very often. Then comes the stubborn one, who we taught to ride this year. He can get down the blues but tends to catch edges and fall very frequently.
The annoying part is when the four of us hit the park, he tries most of the stuff (not the huge jumps but the rails and boxes) that my two better friends try. While some of the time he can manage to land like the flat boxes and low rails and such, he tends to take a bunch of nasty spills. The last time i went he ended up bleeding from falling on a fairly tall, very skiny box. Now this may seem like his problem, but it is annoying the crap out of me. Mainly because i am not dumb enough to try a lot of this stuff, so my other friends tend to pressure me to do the boxes/rails that he ruins himself on. I have no doubt i could handle a lot of the stuff, but i am worried about getting hurt for hockey, and i also take a lot of time to build up the courage to do boxes/ rails etc. What should i do about this? I told my friend he could get seriuosly hurt, but he didnt seem to care.

sorry abt the long post, but this has really been bugging me...

I dont even really have anyone to ride with most of the time, so I envy you that...... as for your friends, let them keep telling you that you can handle it. Dont do anything you arent comfortable with, but take thier comments as compliments! Maybe you could chat with your friend that is shredding himself in the park. He might not actually want to do these things anyway, just doesnt want to look like a pansy. When your friends are hitting hard tricks in the park, ask the injury prone guy if he will come with you to ride a few runs, suggest ones you know he can handle. He probably doesnt want to hurt himself anymore than you do, and he might be relieved to have another option for when the 2 other boys are hitting the park! It might be good for both of you! You seem nervous of getting injured in the park, so skip it, at least till hockey season is over!
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Old 02-17-2008, 06:51 PM   #8 (permalink)
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honestly the hockey bit sounds like an excuse, unless you play professionally or for a college with a scholarship. but thats just me. this theory is backed by the fact that you take a lot of time to build up the courage and that you need people to confirm your opinion

I would try to think that maybe they expect you to learn at a higher level and they are just trying to push you a bit. that doesnt sound wrong to me at all... If the park isnt your thing then dont go! theres plenty of other terrain to hit. some people just have different preferences. thats a perfectly good reason for you not to go to the park and feel like you will always get hurt.

In the end, do whats fun to you. thats what youre there for...
well as for the hockey being an excuse i happen to play varsity high school and my coaches constantly remind us that our team comes first to anything besides school, soo if they knew i was snowboarding at all they would kill me. I dont even want to imagine what would happen if i ended up getting hurt. To try and prevent this i wear wristguards and a helmet, and make sure to keep myself in control. and as far as the need people to confirm my opinion bit, i was just venting/ seeing what other people thought about the whole thing.

to be honest i dont really mind the pushing me hard bit, my friends stupidity just frustrates me a bit. also, i do enjoy spending time in the park because once i get up the guts to do that bigger box/ rail etc i love the feeling of accomplishment i get afterwards, it just takes me a bit more time to get up the courage to do them. for instance i might have to ride by the thing a couple of times before trying it. i just tend to sike myself out a bit.
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Old 02-17-2008, 07:16 PM   #9 (permalink)
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well as for the hockey being an excuse i happen to play varsity high school and my coaches constantly remind us that our team comes first to anything besides school, soo if they knew i was snowboarding at all they would kill me. I dont even want to imagine what would happen if i ended up getting hurt. To try and prevent this i wear wristguards and a helmet, and make sure to keep myself in control. and as far as the need people to confirm my opinion bit, i was just venting/ seeing what other people thought about the whole thing.

to be honest i dont really mind the pushing me hard bit, my friends stupidity just frustrates me a bit. also, i do enjoy spending time in the park because once i get up the guts to do that bigger box/ rail etc i love the feeling of accomplishment i get afterwards, it just takes me a bit more time to get up the courage to do them. for instance i might have to ride by the thing a couple of times before trying it. i just tend to sike myself out a bit.
well the hockey thing i still think is a total BS excuse, but whatever. I played lots of varsity sports in high school and never for an instant had a second thought about snowboarding. especially with a more dangerous sport like hockey

anyways, try going to the park by yourself sometimes. if you catch it when its empty and you are by yourself I think its much easier to get your coursge up cause you can try different things without the fear of lookin dumb to your friends.
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Old 02-17-2008, 07:39 PM   #10 (permalink)
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I think i know how she feels when it comes to sports. It's all about your priorites. For me its baseball before snowboarding. I still hit the stuff i KNOW i can hit and avoid any kind of injury, but staying injury free is always a priority in the back of my mind. If my coach or even my parents found out that i had been hurt snowboarding that would affect me playing baseball, they'd go nuts.

Like I said, it may be an excuse to some people, but hockey could be a much higher priority in her life then snowboarding. I know once im done with sports, ill be more then happy to try and hit the harder and bigger things.
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