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post #21 of 110 (permalink) Old 10-22-2012, 12:13 PM
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Dude, you're a pussy. This is coming from a guy who is married and has been with his wife for over 10 years now. Get your balls back now or lose them forever. You may lose the girl in the process, but you're in straight up bitch mode right now.
This. Women don't like doormats. Really. We don't.

once we know we can walk all over you we can and will abuse that fact.

Soon after that we lose all respect for you and start banging your asshole best friend while you're left wondering wtf happened.
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Dude, you're a pussy. This is coming from a guy who is married and has been with his wife for over 10 years now. Get your balls back now or lose them forever. You may lose the girl in the process, but you're in straight up bitch mode right now.

The relationships that last do so in large part because both people retain their individuality to a certain extent. They don't have to involve their partner in every aspect of their lives.
i can just see his girl posting some shit on dumbitchforums.com: "my boyfriend is smothering me, he's invited me along for a snowboard trip with 4 of his dude friends and he said he won't go without me - but all i wanna do is stay home, go shopping with my girls for the weekend, and make him a sweet solo vid of me with my sybian, except he won't leave me alone for even a minute so oh well, i guess i'll just go cheat on him"

.... happens all the time
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Now there is some clarity. 2 years ago the answer would be yes. These days I've seen a much different side and the answer is becoming no. As for other 4, no not really at all. When this started there was no mention of anyone else - it was not a big "bro trip" and they are not my bros, only one of them is/was.
sounds like you need to just tell them no then.

Don't make it about your girl though. That's the pussy way out.

Linville is right...I've been married 6 years myself and I married a girl who doesn't get pissy when I go off on my own or with guy friends. Don't make your decision based on your women's involvement at all.
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Dude, you're a pussy. This is coming from a guy who is married and has been with his wife for over 10 years now. Get your balls back now or lose them forever. You may lose the girl in the process, but you're in straight up bitch mode right now.

The relationships that last do so in large part because both people retain their individuality to a certain extent. They don't have to involve their partner in every aspect of their lives.
I'd agree with you if you followed the full context of this thread, but you didn't. I do keep my indiviuality and I get plenty of time to do the things I want to do.

I can only afford so many trips in a season right now as it is and I enjoy taking them with her. Theres obviously more going on then what can be portrayed in a few posts but its easy just to call someone a pussy isn't it.
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Pretty much everyone here is spot on. There are several angles to consider.

Been married 12 years, and while it would be fun if my wife was a snowboarder or skier, it's also supremely fun that she isn't.

Mixie is pointing out that while you may not be 20 anymore, you also don't seem to be tied down with kids and a wife and all that shit, when you do, and its been going for a few years, and you will fucking KILL for a week with the boys. And guess what? You will never fucking get it. You may, but it won't be easy. On the other hand the wife is there for the duration.

Give your chick a cool test and go have fun with the boys. Kinda sounds like you are already in the 2nd stage that most married with children people are - do you want to be? I kind of think you already know your decision and are looking here for verification - no?

Finally, you really should grow a pair, but for a new reason. Be honest with her. Now this is really tricky with chicks, because depending on the type, they will look for drama or insults when you tell them stuff like this, but you have to let her know how she is slowing you down. She has to appreciate that she needs to ride like a dude as much as you don't want to ride like a girl.

edit: try not to take it so personally, there is advice here, even in shred telling you not to be a pussy.

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This. Women don't like doormats. Really. We don't.

once we know we can walk all over you we can and will abuse that fact.

Soon after that we lose all respect for you and start banging your asshole best friend while you're left wondering wtf happened.
haha don't have to worry about that, I ain't no doormat.
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I have to admit I think a big part of the issue is that this guys been kind of a dick since I started dating her. He doesn't appreciate that I'm in a serious relationship, he treats his gf like a piece of trash and probably wonders why I can't do the same. his lifes been getting shittier while mines been getting better, he takes a week to text me back... so ya I think if he was beingcool and respected her/us and asked me to go for a few days I would go an she would be fine with it. But 4 days with a bunch of dudes that don't really respect either of us... its a bit different.
Doesn't really sound like the type of group I would want to spend 4 days with, TBH.

Fuck 'em.


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Here is the way I try to make these decisions:

Would I go with them if I wasn't dating her?

If I say yes to that, then I go with them regardless of my dating status and leave her behind. If she is cool with that, great. If not, then things are only going to get worse later on.

If the answer is no, then I really didn't want to go with them in the first place and it doesn't matter if I'm dating someone or not.
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Pretty much everyone here is spot on. There are several angles to consider.

Been married 12 years, and while it would be fun if my wife was a snowboarder or skier, it's also supremely fun that she isn't.

Mixie is pointing out that while you may not be 20 anymore, you also don't seem to be tied down with kids and a wife and all that shit, when you do, and its been going for a few years, you will fucking KILL for a week with the boys. And guess what? You will never fucking get it. You may, but it won't be easy. On the other hand the wife is there for the duration.

Give your chick a cool test and go have fun with the boys. Kinda sounds like you are already in the 2nd stage that most married with children people are - do you want to be? I kind of think you already know your decision and are looking here for verification - no?

Finally, you really should grow a pair, but for a new reason. Be honest with her. Now this is really tricky with chicks, because depending on the type, they will look for drama or insults when you tell them stuff like this, but you have to let her know how she is slowing you down. She has to appreciate that she needs to ride like a dude as much as you don't want to ride like a girl.

edit: try not to take it so personally, there is advice here, even in shred telling you not to be a pussy.

GL girls are the best/worst

I hear what you're saying and I guess through all these posts I'm realizing more and more this is about the guy more than the situation. It's hard to realize a friendship is over, but people change and move on. Honestly if this was a different situation and he was being a good guy and I was closer to him, I don't think taking off for a few days riding would be an issue at all. There is a lot more going on here... when I wrote the first post I was thinking only about the trip/situation but the more I think about thats not really the problem.

and yes, yes they are lol.
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haha don't have to worry about that, I ain't no doormat.
then do what makes you happy. Whether that's trip with the bros or trip with the girl.

So why are you posting about this? are looking from validation from strangers for your decision? Or are you asking for advice on how to take the trip with the girl and NOT get shit from your buddies?

Good luck because that''s what friends are for!
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