Casual

I want to get some input here. I've been with my GF for two years now and we go on snowboarding trips together in the winter, I really enjoy it but I have had to slow down a lot, I can take off on my own and shes fine with it but I don't do it to often. I used to ride with my good friend but the last few years hes been drifting, having his own issues and doesnt seem to appeciate that my life has been getting really good. He invited me on a week long trip in feb but I said I don't wanna leave my girl behind, he said theres 4 other dudes coming so I would have to bunk with one of them that I don't really know. Most are single/divorced pr in not very serious relationships, they like to smoke and drink which are things I've been quiting and slowing down on (which has made my life better). Anyways I said I'm not coming unless I can bring here, even igf we get our own room. I'm getting slammed by my good friend, "i guess no more trips unless wifey comes?" and wow dude guess wifey rules and boys take a back seat" to which I replied I guess so if thats how you want to see it.

What do you guys think? Am I wrong for not wanting to leave my girl behind and go with a bunch of party animals? I'm not 20 anymore - I have done these trips... I wanna go in the hotub with my girl after a good day of riding. I enjoy going away with her, not getting away from her.

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mixie

Give it another few years, and maybe a kid or two. You'll be back to want to hang with your bros.

In the mean time, enjoy the good times with the girl while it lasts, if that's what makes you happy.

Casual

Would I not want to take my kid then?

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Casual

Something to note as well, this guy seems to always exclude my gf from every invite. I find it disrepectful.

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ShredLife

if you want to go on a trip with your chick then do it, but don't expect a group of your single friends to want to come along with you.

i hate riding with 90+% of girls because they can't keep up and they fuck up the whole flow of the day. you'll be clinging to her, taking the slow, low angle shit to get down, and all around not riding with the boys/slowing the whole group down.

as for wanting to bring your chick on a 'guys trip', well that's just straight up douchebaggery. sounds like you like spending time with her - that's great, good for you and your relationship. it also sounds like you can't spend 4 days without her - very not good for your relationship

"i'm not going unless i can bring her with" - you are a complete fucking pussy and should surrender your testicles immediately.

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Cr0_Reps_Smit

if you aren't doing hookers and blow together, you aren't bros. fact.

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Casual

I'm guess your single? lol.

First off, no I didn't invite single friends along, its the other way around. He asked me about the trip a while back, did not mention the 4 other guys. Also if I did come I would part with the girl and let her ride while I rode with the boys so thats not an issue.

Also I will be away for the week before this for work so that would be 2 weeks away basically.

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NickShake

Honestly, Im all for the gentleman type sorta thing, to where I dont believe in ,"bros before hoes," to a certain extent. Obviously thats the one of the biggest cliche, and it takes a completely different turn since your married. After a while though, its good to get away sometimes and just go with the guys and let the wife do something with her friends. At the same time it all depends on how your wife is and the relationship you have with her. But like on of the other guys said. After a kid or two, you will want to hang out with the guys again. So dont keep them distant, or get too close with them, otherwise you will have a completely different conflict with the wife being mad at you about hanging out with the guys too much.

backstop13

gotta agree with Shred on this one...

take your girl on your own trip. fly solo with the boys on this trip and fuck some shit up. Just because the other dudes do shit you're trying to get away from doesn't mean you have to participate. Unless they're fuckwads they'll be cool about it.

If your girl pitches a fit about you hanging out with the boys one week, then it's time to move on. If she's a cool chick she won't have a problem with you going solo.

Tarzanman

You can't please both parties. Your friends want to ride with someone who can keep up and won't whine/bawl for attention every 15-25 minutes.

There are women like this, but your gf/wife is not one of those people.

Its not the end of the world and it isn't anyone's fault. I will probably have a similar conundrum if/when I take my gf snowboarding with a group this season.

Dunno. You can't do everything. Wierd isn't it? There isn't always a way to please everyone, but there is almost always a way to piss everyone off.

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