You can't please both parties. Your friends want to ride with someone who can keep up and won't whine/bawl for attention every 15-25 minutes.
There are women like this, but your gf/wife is not one of those people.
Its not the end of the world and it isn't anyone's fault. I will probably have a similar conundrum if/when I take my gf snowboarding with a group this season.
Dunno. You can't do everything. Wierd isn't it? There isn't always a way to please everyone, but there is almost always a way to piss everyone off.
Read on another forum: "If someone held a gun to my head and said, "You have to move to Salida tomorrow", I'd probably do it. If they told me I had to go to Breckenridge instead, I think I'd just let them pull the trigger."