I think some of you need to take a step back, and realize that just because you live in bro-town and you're burned out, it is not a fair reflection on the entire ski industry.
Your idea is entirely feasible, don't give up on it. What you do not want to do is work at a mountain that doesn't look after their staff. All those stories above, they all exist. However, just as there are shitty mountains to work at, there are also some really good ones.
I know that Jackson and Aspen Ski Co compensate their staff very well. You will also find instructors at these mountains that double as backcountry guides - not so much heli, more touring. Making connections with these people would be a very good idea, gain as much knowledge as you can.
The positives are that you are a girl, and you have an education. If you have some people skills and a level of professionalism then you can get a Job, but its probably going to be part-time. Almost any mountain is going to ask that you show up during busy times, xmas, presidents etc - if you cant do those days then you might have a tough time.
Best of luck to you.